If you are in a relationship that isn’t going so well or it feels like it might be on the rocks, you’re probably wondering if it has any future at all.
It is a difficult thing knowing whether you’re picking up signs to walk away from a relationship or whether you seriously want to stay and fight to keep things together with your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or partner.
Knowing when to walk away from a relationship is arguably one of the hardest things you might ever do. It’s a huge decision, particularly if there are children, pets, houses, cars, etc. involved. A breakup isn’t easy at the best of times, but dragging little ones through it is even worse.
Here are a few pointers to know when it’s time to walk away from a relationship and signs that the relationship is over, as well as some advice on how to walk away from a relationship.
You’re stuck in a daily grind
If you’re stuck in the mundane 9-5 wheel or you’re going through the motions of getting up, making breakfast, dinner and lunch, washing, cleaning and there is no passion there, you may well be stuck in a vicious cycle of eat, sleep, repeat. If you’re not spending time together or enjoying drinks, meals and each other’s company, it may be time to call it a day.
Arguments
If arguments are getting more and more frequent, or you’re rowing over petty little things like whose turn it is to put the bins or who drank the last beer from the fridge, then take a minute to think if there is a reason behind it. If there’s no reason and you’re just getting at each other’s throats, it may be walking away from a relationship is the best thing for both of you.
The love or lust has gone
When you first got together, you’d probably rip each other’s clothes off at any given time. That fades in time for most of us as you settle into the longevity of a relationship, but if there is no passion, chemistry or love anymore and you’re not attracted to one another in that way any longer, it could be the biggest sign to end the relationship.
You’ve started looking at other men or women in a different way
If you’ve started to look at other men or women in a sexual way, or had thoughts about whether a colleague or friend would make a great lover then your mind has already wandered. If you’ve cheated even more so and if you’ve started looking up exes or people online, then you’re definitely on the hunt for some fun that is missing from your relationship.
How to walk away from a relationship
If things can end amicably – particularly if others are involved in terms of children or relatives – then undoubtedly that will make things a whole lot easier in the future. After all, you’ll still have things to sort after breaking up. Try to agree timescales for sorting out the house, bank accounts, child maintenance and a whole load more – it will be beneficial all round if you can sit down and make plans. But if it isn’t mutual and you’re the one ending things, try to do so as tactfully as possible. Any rows over the break up with only escalate in the aftermath.